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Published on
June 11, 2026

Eating Disorders as the problem of Being | Having

Eating Disorders as the problem of Being | Having


Treating eating disorders proves exceedingly difficult, partially because of the absence of a strong theory that helps understand the psychosomatic substrata of people suffering from these issues. For me, such a theory would revolve around the fraught relationship between Being and Having a body.


I first came to treat eating disorders at the Partial Hospitalization (PHP) stage of substance abuse treatment where disordered eating qualifies as a “process addiction,” alongside gambling, excessive spending, video-game addiction, etc. I frequently met clients, mostly but not exclusively females, who had experienced prior treatments for both substance abuse and eating disorders, though these treatments were also separate, siloed. This separation comes from at least two reasons. First, the physical toll that the body and mind must pay to support an eating disorder, especially in its most severe stages, marks individuals with such issues as needing a “higher level of care” where medical doctors can supervise organ function, nutrition deficits, and the like. Clinicians in private practice, too, will often identify themselves as unqualified to navigate the somatic and psychological needs of Anorexics or Bulemics, often leading them to encourage clients with such needs to find a specialist. Second, and building on the problem of “scope of practice,” the traditional treatments for substance use and eating disorders call for totally different approaches. For starters, the “total abstinence” approach to early recovery from alcohol and other drugs can’t work with eating. People need food. To permit the need for food while treating an eating disorder (again, typically) calls for a “management” approach that addresses eating and meal preparation behaviors. Simply put: clinicians either specialize in and focus solely on the treatment of eating disorders, or else they stay clear of them entirely. 


This separation between substance use disorders and process addictions merely replays the Cartesian dualism of mind and body. It’s one of the signs of neoliberalism’s territorialization of the psychic terrain that occurs in order to legislate “evidence-based treatments.” By moving away from traditional treatment theories, I have come to understand the phenomenon of eating disorders as a symptom of something else, usually a fraught relationship between the subject and society. By “subject,” I mean not only the “I” whom the patient believes themselves to be but also the “I” that the patient believes they should be. 


I draw upon Lacan’s distinction between the “ideal ego” and the “ego ideal.” The ideal ego is the aspirational self one strives to become. The ego ideal is the socially constructed image of the ideal self, a kind of mold into which one seeks to fit oneself so as to attain all the benefits one imagines comes from attaining this ideal. Both are fantasies, but, again, I use that word in its Lacanian sense. Fantasy is the culmination of the Imaginary and Symbolic orders, both a “figment” and a “filament” of what we normally call the imagination: figment in the sense of “something invented, a myth, a fable;” filament in the sense of the incandescent element that lights the lights and enables sight. Treating eating disorders requires attending closely to the construction and apperception of ideal ego and ego ideal handled daily by the individual I’m working with. 


Understanding the fantasy of the self leads back to a more pressing conflict, that of Being and Having a body. Sam McCormick’s parsing of Lacan’s 21st seminar underscores the connection between Lacan’s late and early work, especially in the formulation of the body’s speculative/fantastical makeup. Early Lacan synthesized what he called “the mirror stage,” a pivotal moment in a subject’s development where the experiences of Being and Having strike at each other discordantly. To summarize: new personhood feels awkward, emergent, discombobulated, alternatively uncomfortable and delightfully comforting, and simultaneously unfolds astride a recognition that others see me, interact with me, care for me (or not). Being seen (which can encompass being neglected) begins to imply a wholeness that is incommensurate with the Being one experiences. Viewing oneself in a mirror strikes the gong. I see there in the mirror a whole body, yet the “I” who sees feels unwhole. How are both true? Which one is “I”? These questions never resolve. Rather, they crater out and carve a canyon, one that I like to represent with the diacritical mark |. Being | Having. That’s the result of this mirror stage: I am, and I have this body (that I am). Being and Having never unite. Or, rather, they “unite” mythically in the fantasy of the self. This fantasy is the irremediable differentiation (|), albeit a | wrapped up in the semblance of a whole. | masquerades as I. 


When I say “wrapped up” in the semblance of a whole, I’m thinking of a specific artistic practice of wrapping. The art of treating eating disorders can borrow from the art of painting, specifically as enacted by the 20th-century Polish painter and theatre-maker Tadeusz Kantor. Of his many contributions to the world of avant-garde art, his “emballages” are the most helpful in this case. 

Here’s an excerpt from Kantor’s “The Manifesto of Emballages” to which I often return:

The object has always interested me. I realized that it is unconquerable and inaccessible by itself. When realistically reproduced in a painting, it becomes a more or less naive fetish. The color that tries to touch it immediately becomes involved in a fascinating adventure of light, matter, and phantoms. But the object remains unfathomable. Is it possible to 'touch' it in a different way? Artificially. Through a negative, an imprint, or by hiding it. By something that conceals it. 

- Wiesław Borowski, Tadeusz Kantor, Warszawa 1982, p. 147-148.

Contrary to the common sense that might understand painting to produce objects upon a canvas ex nihilo through the addition of pigment to the white background, Kantor sees objects appearing negatively. Color can latch on to the object, thereby functioning like wrapping paper covering a gifted bicycle. Emballage means “wrapping”: paint wraps the object and reveals it without ever disclosing the object as such. “The object remains unfathomable,” that is, we can’t tell how deep it is, how its material truly is. The result of painting is a touching of the object through artful wrapping, not the disclosure of the object itself.   


The question for a painter, then, is not “how do I produce an umbrella out of colored pigment.” The question is this: How can I artfully conceal or wrap the object so as to touch it and give it sensibility negatively? In Kantor’s famous “umbrella emballage,” a three-dimensional umbrella-like construction becomes the wrapping that conceals the two-dimensional painted umbrella, which, in turn, conceals the object of the umbrella. Through his choice of concealment, Kantor throws into question the “is-ness” of umbrellas as such. Which is more real, a “naturalistic” albeit broken down umbrella made through various materials, or the material idea of the umbrella concealed through this naturalistic wrapping? Even if we don’t have an answer to the question, we have the sense that we’re truly in the presence of Umbrella, though I must now rethink what I thought an umbrella to be.



Psychotherapy can produce the space in which a client’s emballage art can be interpreted and theorized. The client with the eating disorder has wrapped or concealed an object (perhaps the object cause of desire, le objet petit a) within a practice of overeating or restricted eating or some combination of those. The practice, however, has attained the status of habit, and if left to run in the background like a kernel process on a computer the habit will appear artless. Once out in plain sight, this changes. The concealing practice is quite artful. It is the umbrella on the canvas. Wrapped within it is a desire, a fear, a foreclosed encounter. In many cases, the encounter is between the body one has and the body one is.


Sex is also such an encounter, an event during which one’s subjective activity discloses its intimate relationship with one’s object-ness. “I” have sex, but “I” also am the body that the other is having sex with. Something disquieting dwells in the ecotone between self as subject and self as object. Penetrating and permeating the boundary, according to Lacanian psychoanalysis, produces an encounter with the fiction of oneness. Sex does not merge two into one. Sex reveals the impossibility of that. Disordered eating does not ameliorate the fear of this revelation, but it does forestall the revelation by either warding off the sexual (non)encounter or permitting a subject to fully objectivize oneself. The wrapping that comes into focus in the treatment of eating disorders is motivated in equal parts by the desire for unification between being and having a body and also the refusal to encounter the inaccuracy of that desire. 


Wrapping is a geometric art, and subtending the client's practice of concealment we find a strict blueprint—a defensive geometry utilized by the mind to prevent the horrific realization that I am what I have . If we look at the lines of this blueprint through the lens of Lacanian mathemes, we can see that the formulas are not mathematical computations, but the literal markings on the canvas of the emballage.


When the subject is anticipating the threat of the somatic encounter, the wrapper is sketched as I < I | sex, where the diacritical mark (|) acts as the rigid boundary wall of the wrapper, keeping the fragile, pre-sexual subjectivity (I) qualitatively lesser than (<) the objectified body that will be seen and possessed by another . Post-coitally, when the anticipated unification fails to occur and leaves only a missed connection, the blueprint flips its geometry to sex | I > I. Here, the primary “I" inflates itself (>), masquerading as whole and dominant to push the somatic reality safely back behind the dividing line.

In the heat of the experience itself—the state of I ♢ I | sex—the blueprint utilizes the Lacanian lozenge (♢), which serves as the ultimate friction of the canvas. This diamond is the brushstroke of fantasy: it connotes the desperate illusion of gaining something substantive during the encounter (>) choked by the agonizing certainty that the core of the self is being exposed or stolen away (<) . In every variation of this blueprint, the vertical mark of sex (| sex) remains outside, because the wrapper can never fully enclose the gap; sex never crosses the divide to achieve union.


Being | Having, Sex, Eating

Consider how sex and eating each come to mind when we utter questions and phrases like these: 

  • Insatiable appetite
  • I choose what I put in my mouth
  • I control what comes out of my mouth
  • What can I permit inside of me?

Additionally, in terms of the biologically female body, there is a known causal relationship between restrictive eating, purging, and the cessation of a regular menstrual cycle. To “control” what goes in and out of one’s mouth, then, is also to manage the processes supporting fertility. In each case—analogous phrases and managing fertility—the mouth reveals itself as the site of the oral drive, which is to say the pleasure of the mouth. The mouth is an orifice marking passage between inside and outside of the body. Whether through speech, eating, or oral sex, we can seek what we desire. We can seek, but we do not attain. This is because, for Lacan, the drive is that which cycles endlessly around the void of desire. There is no comfort in the satisfaction of the oral drive; rather, there is a compulsive missed encounter with desire. Even to “eat nothing” is to engage the oral drive, albeit negatively. Eating (the) nothing over and over again conserves the distance between drive and desire, thereby accentuating the anxiety produced by the desire itself. Abstaining from sex thus rhymes with eating nothing in that two orifices are engaged negatively in a compulsive prohibition. Alternatively, a mandate to abstain from sex coupled with anticipatory anxiety about the eventuality of a sexual encounter may transfer the erotic drive from typical erogenous zones (e.g., vagina) to the mouth. As a result of the transfer, binge eating followed by purging resembles the sexual act insofar as it brings food into the oral orifice and then expels it through the same orifice, thereby satisfying the oral drive.   


The Being | Having conflict returns at this point. If I am yet to have sex but also understand that to have sex is part of my passage into adulthood, and if I fear the vulnerable ritual that supposedly occurs with my body during sex, then “I” run into a problem. I have a body that will be engaged in sex, yet I do not want to be that body. To have a body is to retain some critical distance from this body I have but that I am not. Binging, purging, and restricting food intake all become ways to rehearse the collapse between the body I have and the body I am that will take place during sex. 


Recall that each person has been stuck in a rehearsal of the collapse between the body they have and the body they are since the mirror stage. Which one is “me”? “I” am the difference between the two, the irremediable distance ( | ) between the speculative “me” that others see and the corporeal “me” that I feel I am. If we add in the social process of objectification through which a person loses idiosyncratic subjectivity and becomes, say, an object to satisfy others’ desires, then I wrestle with the question of which “me” shows up during sex. Am I the object another wishes to have, or am I going to be me corporeally? Anxiety or phobia or even certainty about the sexual encounter may lead me to control, through my eating, not what I am but what I have, the object body distinct from my subjectivity. Of course, in doing so I will overlook that by treating my body in this way, I end up negatively controlling what I am insofar as the corporeal body withers and weakens. This overlooking is where the distress comes in. The problem of the eating disorder is the overlooking of the confused distinction between being and having a body.


Why suffer the consequences of gaining control in this way? To answer that, I would need to look at what I am actually controlling. “Disordered” eating is actually a highly ordered maintenance program that monitors and manages entrance to and exit from my body, which is to say oversees the boundary between the speculative body I have and the corporeal body I am. To order and oversee in this way produces pleasure, but pleasure with a Lacanian valence. Think of this pleasure through the frame of a typically “old-fashioned” form of punishment. A father catches a son smoking a cigarette. To punish the son, the father doesn’t forbid cigarettes; instead, he mandates an excess of smoking. “You like smoking, huh? Well then smoke this entire carton of cigarettes in front of me.” The son sits down and smokes until he becomes nauseous. Our superego, the part of the Freudian intrapersonal psychic apparatus regulated by moral principles, acts much like this fabled father. “You like controlling what goes in and out of your body, huh? Very well, do it over and over again until your body starts to fail.” “You’re fascinated with sex, huh? Very well, shove all sorts of things into you.” “You enjoy eating ‘nothing’ do you? Very well, eat ‘nothing’ forever.” Pleasure, in this sense, is the quasi-sadistic fulfillment of the injunction to enjoy. 


Through this perverse enjoyment, a fascinating reversal reveals itself at the literal gate of the teeth. Mastication—the physical chewing of food and the psychic "chewing over" of thought—is twinned with its opposite: a deliberate, defensive ignorance. Binging becomes a form of hypnosis through which critical thought is severed from the somatic control process, a temporary anesthetic against the split of Being and Having. Purging, then, acts as a literal purgation—an attempt to clear the subject of the crime of consumption, to wipe the canvas clean. But here the trap snaps shut: this clearing does not liberate the subject. By expelling the crime to regain the ability to think, the subject merely restores the sterile order required by the superego. The canvas is emptied only so that the sadistic injunction to "eat nothing forever" can begin its cycle anew. 



Published on
May 12, 2026

Beyond the Repair Shop

In a recent piece on Psychiatry at the Margins, Awais Aftab invoked Lacan to remind us that “Desire is the Desire of the Other.” For the modern mental health clinician, this “Other” is often not a person, but an apparatus—a complex web of diagnostic codes, insurance metrics, and a neoliberal “Regime of Sustainability” that demands we return the patient to “normalcy” at any cost. In my forthcoming work, The Psychic Apparatus and the Regime of Sustainability, I argue that we have reached a crisis point that Aftab’s “Twilight of the Psychopharmacologists” only begins to touch. If the era of biological reductionism is waning, what is replacing it? Too often, it is a “Behavior Factory” where therapy is sold as a commodity of repair, designed to conserve social antagonisms rather than resolve them.

The Tautology of “Normalcy”

Therapists are currently caught in a trap. The clinic—in all the ways this topos manifests today—functions as a site where we “repair” individual pathologies while silently conserving the very social conditions that produced them. We tell the client that x = x—that their identity is a self-same unit to be stabilized. But as Lacan (and Aftab’s recent explorations) suggests, the truth of identity is that x ≠ x. The subject is inherently “lacking,” and by trying to sustain or conserve a fictional wholeness, therapy becomes a state ideological apparatus.

From Clinical Repair to Performance Philosophy

If Aftab is right that we need a pluralistic and transdisciplinary future for psychiatry and all domains of mental health counseling, then we must move far away from “Behavioral Health” and even “Mental Health” to a Performance Philosophy, a mode of extemporaneous being that thrives on a diversity of ways of relating. As an ongoing thought experiment, I often return to a fictional persona that I’ve named “Marina,” a 28-year-old struggling with what the DSM-5-TR labels “Borderline Personality Disorder.” In the current regime, Marina is a broken machine to be fixed. But what if we viewed Marina’s symptoms not as pathologies, but as artworks? What if her “anxious attachment” is actually a performance of a dashed hope—an encomium for a loss that the language of clinical medicine cannot name? In this thought experiment, I don’t function as a technician of the soul; rather, I become a second in battle, a companion for Marina and her forays into the fraught landscape of the social. We need a social antidote to the DSM, where diagnoses like ADHD or Bipolar are reimagined as forms of social strife—modes of conflict embedded in society itself.

The Art of the “No”

The future of therapy calls for an “Art of the No,” a rejection of the administrative control of the living. Any cure produced within an exploitative wellness industry is no cure at all; it is merely a successful recalibration of the psychic apparatus to better endure exploitation. If we are to move therapy from “asociality” to a radical “A-Sociality,” a place-making practice capable of locating anideological subject positions, we must stop trying to make people “sustainable.” We must instead embrace the “ruthless criticism of all that exists.” Only then can therapy stop being an obstacle to social transformation and start being a site of genuine liberation.

Published on
May 2, 2026

The Problem of the Oak Tree

Why We Need a Performance Philosophy of Therapy



It is often said that therapy is a "helping profession," a self-evident pursuit of relief and betterment. But what if therapy’s apparent self-evidence is exactly what prevents it from working?



In my own clinical work, I’ve often been struck by two related questions: What actually produces change, and why does therapy so frequently seem to fail to produce sustainable well-being? The uncomfortable truth may be that we are working within an apparatus that demands a return to "normal"—a conservation of the very status quo that produced the suffering in the first place. Without critical interrogation, therapy risks becoming a mere "behavior factory," an ideological adjunct that helps us cope with exploitation and structural exclusion rather than challenging them.


The Generative Problem

To rethink therapy, we must first rethink what we mean by a "problem." Usually, we see a problem as something to be eliminated by a singular answer. Instead, I propose viewing problems as "generative tilth"—the matrix from which thinking sprouts. Consider the acorn: it is the "problem" of the oak tree. The seed doesn't disappear; it actualizes into the growth it was meant to become.

Each client who enters therapy is a unique "acorn". The "problem" isn't a pathology to be cured, but a site of emergence for a new kind of thinking.


Performance Philosophy as Practice

This is why I advocate for Performance Philosophy Therapy. Unlike traditional models that rely on manualized treatments or purely mind-centered idealism, this approach views therapy as an "artful practice" and a "performance thinking" event. It understands that meaning is not readymade; it reveals itself only through our social and embodied language usage.


By bringing philosophers like Adorno and Horkheimer into the room alongside science fiction and the arts, we can begin to see symptoms not just as distress, but as "artworks" or "encomia for loss". Performance philosophy allows us to transgress the boundaries of the clinic and ask better questions:

  • What does this way of thinking do?
  • How can we free therapy from its "already-knowing-what-it-is-ness"?


Therapies Yet to Come

We are currently living under a "Regime of Sustainability," where "repairing" the individual often serves to silently conserve social antagonisms. To break this cycle, therapists must become theorists and speculators. We need to imagine "therapies yet to come"—future time-spaces where therapy is not a tool for maintaining the status quo, but an anideological practice that frees us to relate to ourselves and others differently.

Change will not occur by merely teaching "coping skills". It occurs when we allow the therapeutic encounter to become a radically open field, a dazzling collection of "wildflowers" unique to every contact between therapist and client. It is time to unsettle the givens and build the therapy we actually need.

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August 14, 2025

The Seeable and the Sayable

The word “insight” reigns supreme in therapeutic environments. It connotes an “ah ha” moment and deep, perhaps new, understanding. “Knowledge,” however, receives less attention. The word may actually carry an unfair burden because therapists tend to subordinate “knowing” to “feeling.” Interestingly, “feeling” often connotes a strange kind of knowledge, one present in the idiomatic expression, “I know it, but I don’t know it, you know?” Here, knowing means feeling, internalizing, acting upon. Thus, while I might know (cognitively) that I am a good person, I don’t yet know (feel, believe) it, as is evident through sheepish and/or self-defeating behaviors. The work of the therapist seems to be to attend to the client as he/she/they forms insight, such that the client, fully supported by the therapist, comes first to understand the difference between knowing and knowing, and then acts effortlessly in life such that the knowing bodies forth through behavior. But what does this therapeutic attendance look like? Once supported, how exactly does the client reframe knowledge such that it ceases to be remanded to the field of useless cognition and transmutes itself into the realm of useful belief and behavior? The answers to those questions pass through the terrain of insight, but they require understanding “knowledge” in a more precise way.
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The two 20th-Century French philosophers whose work helped me refine my understanding of knowledge are Michel Foucault and Gilles Deleuze. The latter, writing about the former, explains that knowledge occurs by bridging two realms, the visible (i.e., the seeable) and the articulable (i.e., the sayable). For Foucault, knowledge does not exist until that which is visible unites with that which is sayable. And this union is no easy feat because each domain is governed by its own rhythms. Artworks provide clear examples of these different rhythms at work.
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René Magritte, Les monde des images (1950)
​I hung a print of this Magritte painting in my office for a while and I used it as a diagnostic tool. I was curious about which clients noticed it, commented on it, questioned it, and attempted to analyze it. Fewer than half of my clients acknowledged it at all. Those who looked at it for more than a few seconds said nothing about it. The small number of people who spoke about it were divided into two unequal categories. The first group, larger in number, made superficial comments, such as “That’s a cool picture.” The second group, including maybe 2 or 3 clients total, produced questions like, “What’s going on with that?” If people said anything about the painting at all, I would ask a series of questions. “Tell me, what do you see?” “What do you make of the broken glass?” “The title is ‘World of Images,’ why do you think it’s called that?” Exactly 0 clients ventured in-depth answers to those questions, and the same number arrived at anything resembling an analysis of the picture. As such, there was no knowledge produced during their engagement with the image. That is, the realms of the visible and the articulable were not bridged.

Not bridging the two realms took a tremendous amount of restraint on my part because the painting produces knowledge that is, in 100% of cases, relevant to people engaged in therapeutic work. The gestalt of the scene conveys a familiar experience, one that some people may even describe as beautiful or calming: A sun setting or rising over/from the ocean horizon. The familiar starts to become strange when one notices that the view of the sun is framed by a broken window. A little bit of thinking leads to the realization that the presence of shards of glass inside the room suggests the window broke inward, i.e., something from outside broke the window. But this logical line of thought breaks, too, since the shards of glass reveal an uncanny detail. The shards are not transparent pieces of glass. They seem to have retained the image of the setting/rising sun. Interestingly, the journey of the eye across the canvas leads from the center of the sun down towards the shards of glass, and if the eye keeps moving in that direction it will leave the canvas and encounter the caption that holds the painting’s title: The World of Images. Magritte has provided the domain of the seeable (the painting) and the domain of the sayable (the painting’s title) but has not bridged the two. The bridging, which I’ll call thinking, is the work required to produce knowledge of the painting. Clients in therapy benefit from undertaking precisely this work—both of this painting in particular and of knowledge production generally—because the strangeness of “the world of images” is usually one of the distressing aspects of daily life that brings them into therapy in the first place.

The work required is not that of making the normal (sunset/sunrise) strange (as seen felt in the view of the shards retaining that which was seen through the window), but, rather, of acknowledging the strangeness of the “world of images” and the work of knowledge production typically glossed over by habitual actions (such as, for example, the act of looking). The world outside the room is a world of dynamic forces. The forces seem to have broken inward through the glass. More than that, the image of the sun has burned itself upon the glass, much like light impresses itself upon the film in the production of photographic images. But when the eye returns to the plane dividing the interior and the exterior of the painted room, it returns with a worry. On what now are the forces of the world impressing themselves? My eyes? Who’s to say they won’t burn and break my eyes? Of course, that’s not possible because none of this is as it seems. This is a painting. The force of my seeing is producing each and every “fact” of the painting in front of me. I see broken glass, but there is no real broken glass. I see an impossibility in the form of a scene of the world imprinted upon glass that once framed the same scene of the world, but there is no impossibility here since there is no “real world,” only an image of it. The force of my looking is meeting the force of the The World of Images pressing in against my eyes. My awareness of this illuminates the materiality of my encounter with the painting, which is to say the materiality of thought. Or, as Magritte said in a letter to Foucault, “thought is what sees and can be described visibly” (cited in Deleuze, Foucault, 49). In a beautiful touch, Magritte frames his window with curtains that are reminiscent of those we might see framing a proscenium stage in a theatre. We have here a pictorial dramatization of the theatrical performance of seeing and being seen. 

The theatre event replays itself on a daily basis in a profoundly mundane fashion. I believe that some external force is producing distress in my life. The distress is akin to the burning force of the sun that shatters the glass, throws shards inwards toward my intrapsychic fortress of solitude, and produces a disturbing, nightmarish wrinkle in the fabric of my daily life. As Epictetus pointed out millennia ago, however, it's not things that upset us, but our judgments about things. The supposedly external circumstances that bother me are known entirely through how I see and interpret them. The change one seeks will rarely take place in the world “outside;” rather, it will take place through a process of seeing differently. To return to Deleuze and Foucault, how I say and thus define what a problem is will change once I see the so-called “problem” in a new way. The knowledge of a “problem” is always multifaceted, and yet we typically hold ourselves in one position and continue to appraise the problem from a single degree of perspective instead of circling the problem to encounter the other 359-degrees.
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August 8, 2025

Therapy as 3-Body Problem

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Liu Cixin’s 2006 novel Three-Body Problem (三体) leapt into the imagination of Americans last year when Netflix transformed it into a series of the same name. As with most compelling sci-fi stories, the plot produces an uncanny eeriness by blending an outrageous scenario with themes that are hyperrelevant to people in the present moment. In this case, the themes of perpetual surveillance, the irredeemability of the human race, techno-authoritarianism, and the failed ideals of intellectual progress all hit pretty hard. So even though Liu is confronting his readers with a story of alien invasion, he’s really commenting on something we know too well; namely, humanity is suffering a slow death. What will save us? Math? Science? Extraterrestrials? 
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Even though readers can easily side-step the nuances of the physics and mathematical problems named in the book’s title, I’d like to argue that therapists could benefit from slowing down and grappling with the complexity of the 3-body problem. Why? If you have clients suffering from “co-occurring disorders,” then you effectively have clients suffering from a biopsychosocial three-body problem. 
Consider that term, which therapists use all the time but rarely deconstruct: Bio-psycho-social. Three “bodies” acting upon and within one individual client. We assess our clients’ biological, psychological, and social circumstances as if each of those “dimensions” was exerting its own physical power over the person whose problems we’re helping to navigate. If we add the spiritual dimension, then a fourth “body” enters the picture and the scenario gets even more complex. 

As it turns out, the n-body problem of the Bio-psycho-social-spiritual dimensions of our client is a perfect analogue to the mathematical three-body problem highlighted in Liu’s novel. Mastery of Newton’s laws governing gravity and motion help us map the complexities of one planet orbiting another body, such as the sun. But when another body exerting its own gravitational effect enters the picture, Newton’s laws start to become less helpful. In fact, once a third-body enters the celestial picture, it becomes impossible to accurately predict the precise motions of bodies. As such, it becomes impossible to develop certainty about the effects of each body upon the other. This mathematical problem becomes a “real” problem if you live on one of the “bodies” tangled in the 3-body celestial orbit. And if you’re thinking that such phenomena are relegated to the world of sci-fi, I will politely redirect your attention to the chaos of the biopsychosocial-spiritual reality in which you’re ensconced and point out that, hey, you’re gonna need to brush up on your “math.”
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August 4, 2025

To get better, we need better questions.

The answer is lebensform, but to understand it we'll need to know the question.

Clients in the worlds of substance abuse and mental health therapy tend to share a dislike for slogans. I've played around with this in the group therapy setting by asking clients to only speak in AA slogans, using no other words. "It's all about people, places, and things for me. Just doing the next right thing, taking it one day at a time." Everyone laughs because they think of that one person at the AA or NA meetings who sincerely talks like this. When we pick the phenomenon apart, we get to the conclusion that the general dislike of the slogan and the sloganeer comes from a feeling of insincerity, as if the "bumper sticker" language misses something unique about each client's circumstance. 

And there's the rub. Each person is unique, and yet each person also shares a surprising number of similarities with other people. We are bound together through our cultural affiliations, and we develop our sense of belonging through shared language that helps to identify us as part of the group. Slogans in fact come from this very fact. Why do AA slogans exist? People repeat them as proof of the organization's effectiveness. If you know the slogan, then, theoretically, you know the process that leads to a full understanding of the slogan, and if you have that full understanding then you are likely on the road to recovery. Sadly, however, the slogans can produce the opposite effect. They can be wielded as reprimands that suggest a failure has occurred. If only you understood the difference between progress and perfection, then you wouldn't have relapsed. Or, it sounds like somebody forgot to let go and let God. When words like these are transmitted and received in a careless way, then they can produce the opposite effect for which they were intended. The same is true for mental health problems. Tell a person with anger issues to slow down or count to 10 and you might get punched in the face. Or tell someone with a personality disorder that they aren't working from a Wise Mind and you could get your tires slashed. How do we make sure that we're using language to validate individual difference and promote group belonging instead of accidentally invalidating the unique person in front of us and spurring feelings of alienation?

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Published on
July 21, 2025

How laughing heals

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You have heard that laughter is the best medicine, but have you dwelt on how laughter heals?

Let's start with the admission that pain and suffering exists, which his why we need healing at all. Medical doctors have determined that there is truth in the expression that laughter functions like medicine. But I'm not talking about acute medical problems. I'm interested in relief from existential dread. We live in a world where the Ignorant are in charge and fully committed to setting the conditions for maximal, pervasive distress. Given the severity of the wound, we're going to need a lot of laughter. As I argue in my new book, we need a certain kind of laughter, one that fully embraces the pain as it simultaneously points the way to a new mode of being.

Consider the headline from The Onion above. Again, let's start with suffering. The joke hurts because it presses on a few sore points. First, schools aren't really helping young people learn how to learn. Kids are great at doing school, but, as Mark Twain pointed out long ago, that skill is actually getting in the way of education. So, on one level, the headline hurts because it reminds us that the institution of education in the U.S. has largely failed to cultivate new generations of critical thinkers. Second, of all the subjects of study to lose their grip within the halls of primary and secondary education, history is perhaps the one we ought to grieve the most. True, the joke appears to be about literacy and grammar. But by cutting the "past tense," that means that not only will students need to learn how to read in a new way but they will also lose access to the past. Level two of the joke appears here: we've already lost access to that. Texas textbook revisionism coupled with too strong of a reliance on logical positivist approaches to the past has created a shallow presentism. If history seems to repeat itself, that's because we, as a nation, can't seem to recall the history of mistakes we keep making and the poor decisions we keep making on purpose. Third, and finally, the joke hurts because funding cuts are now chipping away at our vocabulary. If we cut the past tense out of our language, that'll let us function on only 2/3 of our budget, right?

Wrong. And yet we laugh. What kind of laugh does The Onion produce here? I call the kind of humor at work here a humor of congruence. Dialectically related to the dominant incongruity theory humor, which states that comedy often arises from the incommensurability of two or more side-by-side people, ideas, or situations, my congruent theory of humor suggests we laugh when something reveals precisely how something is. The formula shifts from "this does not equal that" to "this is this." In the headline, even though the scenario is exaggerated, the exaggeration reveals precisely what is the case; namely, the headline reveals how bad off we are in the present due to the failings of the educational institution. The laugh produced astride the recognition of what is the case is a laugh of recognition, and recognition is the first step toward healing. We can't get get better if we don't know we're sick.
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As a mental health counselor, I often bring this theory of humor into the group therapy environment. I distribute humorous images and wait for the laughter to erupt. Once people laugh, I ask the question: what's so funny? Take this Alice In Wonderland image, for example. The theory of incongruity suggests that the humor arises from the divergent meanings of "mad." The Cheshire Cat means "we're all crazy here," but Alice thinks she's done something wrong: Are you "mad" (Angry) at me? But this incongruity (mad ≠ mad) is not the only reason, or even the main reason that healing laughter arises after encountering this meme. 

Whether we're in a therapeutic setting or not, insecurities abound. Insecurities come from beliefs about ourselves that we safeguard and try to keep from view. Despite our best efforts, however, the beliefs do in fact show themselves, often through our speech and our behavior. When Alice interprets the cat's "mad" to mean that she's already done something wrong, she is showing us one of her insecure beliefs. She must have done something wrong because that's her thing. She's the one who has always already done something wrong. And the cat et al. know it. In my group therapy sessions, people laugh as they identify themselves with the same core belief. If people don't have that core belief, they tend not to "get" the joke right away. People who suffer from this kind of insecurity access the healing laughter first, maybe because they're the ones who need it. Presumably, the person who made this meme is one of these insecure people. It was made for the purpose of naming this common problem. What is the case? Many people enter spaces with the presumption that they are in the wrong and that everyone either knows it already or will soon find out. 

Invisible and privately held beliefs become visible, and the healing begins. I feel like Alice. Oh, you, too? Oh wait, whoever made this meme really gets it. There's a whole community of us! Uh oh, that's not good. This feeling is a thing. A common thing? Is that what this group is about? Of course it is. I'm laughing in multiple ways now. I "get" the joke + the joke's on me + the joke's not funny + I'd rather not be the person who gets the joke. Do I drink alcohol because I feel this way? No. That's can't be it. Is it? 

Step two of the healing process of this particular kind of laughter reveals itself at this point. Step 1: laughter makes what it is the case visible. Step 2: once visible, laughter unites people who typically suffer in silence and alone. 
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Step 3: Healing doesn't just happen. You make it happen.

Once something typically hidden becomes visible and we verify that, yes, this is the case, and once we unite with others who suffer in similar ways with us, then we can turn to the work of producing healing. One of the many drawbacks of Western medicine's reliance on pharmacology is that the pervasiveness of pills and prescriptions fabricate a false belief that something outside of us will fix us. But the pill doesn't do the healing. The recognition that help is required and the behaviors of seeking out and asking for help are the actions that led to the acquisition of the medication that will play a part in the treatment of whatever ails you. Similarly, when it comes to existential dread, the remedy will come about through concerted action. It is not enough, in other words, to sit in a room with people and agree that we "get" a joke about a cycle of thinking that ultimately defeats us, makes us depressed, produced anxiety, or whatever. "I'm amazing. I hate myself. I'm not real. That's exactly how it goes." Good. We have words to name a feeling and a process, but more steps are required. For starters, we need to intervene in the cycle.

One way to do this, after introducing the meme to a group, is to challenge people to ask each other a question throughout the day, "Where are you in the cycle right now?" I hear the question, I laugh, and I respond: "Ha. I'm amazing right now." "Give it time," you'll say. "Let me know when you don't exist." We laugh together. And at what are we laughing? We are laughing now at three things: 1. It is true that I think in this self-defeating and perplexing way. 2. I know others see me thinking in this way, and I know they can see me because they, too, think in this way. 3. We're working together to do something about it. One laugh moves through many states, from the surprise of recognition to the joy of connection with others to the hope of producing a different mode of being. 
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Want to carry the work of healing from a group therapy room or a small cohort of friends to the world at large? Don't worry. There's a meme for that.

If I walk through the mechanics of the healing laugh with a group of people in Asheville, NC, and then show them the Tattoo Artist/People Who Need Therapy meme, lots of healing laughter erupts. Working in a substance use treatment center was hands-down the greatest place to produce such laughter because everyone in there, me include, is covered in tattoos. Everyone has some knowledge of the intriguing, medicinal pain that comes through tattooing, and everyone knows that money will sooner go toward the next tattoo than it will toward the deductible on your insurance that enables you to keep going to therapy. 

This meme does quite a lot of work. It draws attention to a visible mark that will show itself out on the streets, and once it makes itself visible there it will have the power to continue the healing work started in the therapy room. I'm walking on the sidewalk and I pass in front of a tattoo parlor. I remember, "Ha, I wonder if anyone in there should be getting therapy instead?!" I look at my own tattoos. I need therapy. This is how it is. The work is continuous, and so many people would benefit from doing it. The knowledge produced through this train of thought is almost totally overwhelming. In certain cases, I would be crying as I thought about how many people are suffering, how many institutions perpetuate suffering, how many individuals seek out remedies, often through non-sustainable means. But right now I'm laughing as I face the same kind of overwhelm. 

Laughter has the power to heal provided that the laugher rides the wave of the laugh into action for sustaining change in a world that prefers repetition of the same to revolution-like interventions. For something to change, a full-on political revolution is not always needed. The change can start from a tiny laugh in a small room with others who are suffering. As long as you know that that the laugh is awaiting you in the world, that you can and should seek it out, and that, once you find it, you will gain a short-lived boost of energy to intervene, then you are prepared to produce the work of healing in the world.  
Published on
July 17, 2025

Time travel or how healing happens?

In The Sublime Object of Ideology (1989), Slavoy Žižek treats William Tenn's (aka Philip Klass) 1955 story, “The Discovery of Morniel Mathaway.”

An art historian living in the 25th century builds a time machine to go back and encounter a man who was entirely unknown in his time period—our present day—but later became regarded as the greatest painter of all time. The historian made his career studying this artist’s work and acquired recognition as the de facto expert on this famous but mysterious historical person.

Using the time machine, the historian travels back, eventually locates the artist, and learns that the man is an absolute disaster. He is, basically, in mania all the time. He is deceptive and unruly. He doesn’t care about anything except himself. Eventually, the man steals the historian’s time machine, leaving the historian stranded in the past.

After freaking out a bit, the historian comes up with a plan for how to keep himself sane, stranded, as he is, hundreds of years in the past, broken off from his family, and alone. He decides to paint the famous artist’s works from memory. He teaches himself how to paint and acquires all the materials. Gradually, he reconstructs all the paintings that he had dedicated so many years to studying and interpreting.

After accomplishing this task, it dawns on the historian that it was he himself all along who was the famous painter. The original “man” he had spent so many years studying was himself, though he couldn’t have known that until enacting the time travel, getting stranded, determining to paint the paintings from memory, etc.
Yet, what then is “memory” or “history”?


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Published on
July 8, 2025

Addiction and the Titanic

It's 9am on a Thursday in a substance abuse treatment facility. How do you solicit interest from clients? Try this out:

In 1898, the American author Morgan Robertson wrote a novel called Futility, or The Wreck of the Titan. It features a boat called the Titan that has the following specifications:
  • 800 ft [244 m] long 
  • Capacity for roughly 3,000 passengers
  • Lifeboats for only a fraction of that number of people
  • Capsizes after hitting an iceberg in the Atlantic Ocean as it sailed from Ireland to the United States

On April 15, 1912, the Titanic (actually) struck an iceberg in the Atlantic killing most of the 3000 passengers on-board. Here were its specifications:
  • 882 ft 9 in [269 m] long
  • Lifeboats for only a fraction of that number of people
  • Similarly upper-class passengers

I then ask the clients two questions. 1.) How is it possible that an author envisioned a significant historical event in advance? 2.) Which of the two events came/comes first?

Published on
June 23, 2025

Gedankenexperiment: Give me your phone!

If any clinicians run group therapy sessions and would like to try out something fun, here's a group to try (along with an evidence-based summary and references):

TITLE:
​Thought Experiment: Spontaneous Vulnerability

This group therapy session combines elements of philosophical counseling and techniques from narrative therapy to help clients rehearse an imagined moment of vulnerability. The clinician explained the principle of Gedankenexperiment [thought experiment], the “term used by German-born physicist Albert Einstein to describe his unique approach of using conceptual rather than actual experiments in creating the theory of relativity” (Brittanica). He then provided the following thought experiment.
  • Imagine you are on a date
  • You are sitting across from the person. You’ve just met in person for the first time.
  • You find the courage to ask, “Would you be willing to let me look through your phone for 10 minutes?”

Clients then responded to the following questions:

  • What feelings come up as you imagine this experience?
  • If the person says yes, how likely are you to hand your phone over as a matter of courtesy and reciprocity?
  • When you’re holding the other person’s phone, what do you look for, and why do you think you choose those things?

The discussion up to that point prepared clients to answer the main question: What story does your phone tell about you, and is that story aligned with the story you like to tell others about yourself?

Theoretical Foundations & Therapeutic Alignment
  1. Narrative Therapy Principles
    Narrative therapy posits that individuals make meaning through the stories they tell about themselves and others. This group leverages this by asking clients to examine the implicit narrative contained within the contents of their phone (photos, texts, history), thus helping them explore discrepancies between:


    • Their lived identity (as tracked digitally),

    • Their performed identity (how they wish to be seen),

    • Their recovery identity (how they hope to evolve).

  2. White & Epston (1990) emphasize that externalizing conversations and exploring subjugated narratives can disrupt self-stigmatizing and substance-linked identity stories.

  3. Philosophical Counseling & Thought Experiments
    Thought experiments have been used in philosophical counseling to challenge assumptions and encourage clients to rehearse moral and emotional dilemmas. The vulnerability posed by the imagined phone exchange models existential risk and intimacy.

    Lahav (2006) supports the use of philosophical techniques in therapy to cultivate ethical self-reflection and identity exploration, especially effective in group settings where peer perspectives deepen the inquiry.


  4. Self-Concealment and Shame in Addiction
    Individuals with substance use disorders often experience elevated levels of shame and self-concealment (Luoma et al., 2007). Asking clients to imagine handing over their phone invites them into a symbolic moment of radical honesty, where their digital footprint becomes a metaphor for internal experience. This supports exposure to vulnerability in a contained and reflective way.

    Luoma, J. B., et al. (2007). Self-stigma in substance abuse: Development of a new measure. Journal of Psychopathology and Behavioral Assessment.


  5. Digital Identity as a Tool for Reflective Practice
    Modern therapeutic approaches increasingly acknowledge that individuals maintain significant emotional and narrative content in digital devices. Asking clients to consider “what story their phone tells” uses contemporary, relatable metaphors to elicit profound reflection.

    Ward, C. (2018). Digital storytelling in therapy: Narrative, identity, and ethics. Clinical Social Work Journal.


Psychotherapeutic Goals of the Group— Foster insight into incongruity between private and public selves
— Increase tolerance for vulnerability in a safe, imaginative frame
— Promote group cohesion through shared discomfort and emotional risk-taking
— Challenge shame-based thinking by recognizing common themes in others’ responses
— Support authenticity in constructing new recovery-oriented narratives


Clinical Utility in Substance Use Settings
  • Clients with addiction histories often feel disconnected from their “authentic self” and suffer from fragmented identities. This group encourages:

    • Cognitive dissonance exploration (Festinger, 1957)

    • Ego-integrity restoration (Erikson’s stages; McAdams’ narrative identity model)

    • Pre-relapse cognitive awareness of shame, secrecy, or avoidance

  • By embedding this activity in a thought experiment, clients are spared the real-world exposure of actual phone sharing, but benefit from the emotional simulation of a highly vulnerable moment—functionally similar to imaginal exposure in trauma treatment (Foa et al., 2006).

REFERENCES
  • https://www.britannica.com/science/Gedankenexperiment
  • White, M., & Epston, D. (1990). Narrative Means to Therapeutic Ends. Norton.
  • Luoma, J. B., Kohlenberg, B. S., Hayes, S. C., & Fletcher, L. (2007). Self-stigma in substance abuse: Development of a new measure. Journal of Psychopathology and Behavioral Assessment, 29(4), 231–244.
  • Lahav, R. (2006). Philosophical practice and self-transformation. Practical Philosophy, 9(2), 12–19.
  • Ward, C. (2018). Digital storytelling in therapy: Narrative, identity, and ethics. Clinical Social Work Journal, 46, 321–330.
  • Foa, E. B., Hembree, E. A., & Rothbaum, B. O. (2006). Prolonged Exposure Therapy for PTSD: Emotional Processing of Traumatic Experiences. Oxford University Press.



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